“A speaker of truth has no friends” -African Proverb
As you got used to it, – if you follow me – I’m going to be outrageous again. 😉
“Being honest may not get you a lot of friends but it’ll always get you the right ones’” ~John Lennon
Indeed, the world – so far – is in a state like that.
Have you ever tried, my dear reader, to imagine how the world would look like if everyone would start to just tell the truth?
Coline Serreau has made our job easier. In her movie “The Green Beautiful” an “alien” lady’s one touch or one move makes people telling the truth in all range of different social situations and it causes a great upheaval… quite funny.
Here you can find the movie – I really recommend to watch it, for many other reasons too (One of my favourite movies ever): https://vimeo.com/67868544 this is only the french version, I’m lucky as I speak Hungarian and there is a version with Hunsub, also I’ve seen an English subtitled one but it seems it disappeared, if you don’t speak French and happen to find an English version can you please let me know? Thank you 🙂
In real life we would experience at least the same chaos, but things would fall in place soon after! We’d experience a world, a reality that is really HUMAN. The choice is difficult, right? Over the years I experienced many, many times that people would turn their back at me for speaking the truth. Only a tiny few remained… Still, until today if I have to choose between someone’s friendship + lying or speaking up, I’ll choose the latter. Always.
When people demand the lie
If your choice is telling the truth, you’ll experience that people use the labelling trick. You “educate” them; you are “arrogant”; “unfriendly”; “You aren’t loving” and so on. In reality, of course, they only trick and deceive themselves, but if you don’t pay attention they bring you into the maze and make you lie again before you realize.
But if you stay aware, you don’t serve and align to their demands.
Today people do want to hear lies so if you tell the truth or if you are at least honest, you will probably lose your popularity.
For me still the most important thing is: being able to sleep calmly and with clear conscience each night knowing that I didn’t compromise my inner truth and my inner urge to be real.
And I allowed everyone, gave the chance of doing the same, and I gave the good example. How about you?
If you tell the truth, you’ll have to face that people will laugh at you and / or try to discredit you.
Many of you probably associate that thought of Mahathma Gandhi at once:
“First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then… ” you know the rest, right?
If you want to know the truth, learn some lie spotting techniques, educate yourself! 😉
“The subtleties of human decency — character integrity –that’s still what matters, that’s always what’s going to matter. So in this much noisier world, it might make sense for us to
be just a little bit more explicit about our moral code. When you combine the science of recognizing deception with the art of looking, listening, you exempt yourself from collaborating in a lie.” ~Pamela Meyer
And a final thought, one of my favourites from the “outrageous” Osho:
“A man’s true life is the way in which he puts off the lie imposed by others on him. Stripped, naked, natural, he is what he is. This is a matter of being, and not of becoming. The lie cannot become the truth, the personality cannot become your soul. There is no way to make the nonessential the essential. The nonessential remains nonessential and the essential remains essential, they are not convertible. And striving towards truth is nothing but creating more confusion.
The truth has not to be achieved. It cannot be achieved, it is already the case. Only the lie has to be dropped. All aims and ends and ideals and goals and ideologies, religions and systems of improvement and betterment, are lies. Beware of them. Recognize the fact that, as you are, you are a lie. Manipulated, cultivated by others. Striving after truth is a distraction and a postponement. It is the lie’s way to hide.
See the lie, look deep into the lie of your personality. Because to see the lie is to cease to lie. No longer to lie is to seek no more for any truth–there is no need. The moment the lie disappears, truth is there in all its beauty and radiance. In the seeing of the lie it disappears, and what is left is the truth.” ~Osho